Untangling Her Tingle: A Woman's Orgasmic Triad

“How far does a girl have to go to untangle her tingle?”

-tagline of the 1972 American Movie entitled Deep Throat

In the earlier years when the topic of sex, sexual intercourse, foreplay, and anything related to it were still taboo, women have only known two ways to achieve orgasm (and oh so secretively!): one, through direct stimulation of the clitoris (clitoral orgasm) and stimulation and penetration of the vagina (vaginal orgasm). But in the later years, as women were already given the rights to vote, have an education, work, and maintain their individuality, sexual discovery became more open and less sporadic. Women then became more conscious of their own bodies, became more exploratory, and found out (ehrm . . . ) through, somewhat like a hit and miss or trial and error probing that orgasm can be achieved not only through clitoral or vaginal stimulations, but through what women know now as the stimulation of the so-called G-spot.

There are also those to have other types of orgasms altogether different from the previously mentioned three types, but in any case, these orgasms could be equated to or be qualitatively the same (at times, in some testimonials, as different) to vaginal orgasm. These are breast orgasm, anal orgasm, spontaneous orgasms (or orgasms brought about by non-sexual activities) and multiple orgasms.

DEFINITION: FEMALE ORGASM

Like the male orgasm, the female orgasm, generally is defined as the winding up or finale of the plateau phase of the sexual response cycle and is likewise known as “SEXUAL CLIMAX.”

The physical manifestations of orgasm include staccato or spasmic muscle contractions in the lower pelvic muscles which in actuality, surround the area of the primary reproductive organs like the ovaries and the uterus as well as the anal area. There is a lingering and feeling of intense pleasure that is indescribable that likewise induce other spasms like a network of pleasurable electricity all throughout the body, an inexplicable euphoric feeling, sometimes, even hysteria and vocalizations from slight purring to moans, groans and shouts.

More detailed manifestations include increased heartbeat, the vagina becomes moistened, the skin exhibiting something like a flush or a rash within the chest area due to the increased blood flow to the skin, the labia minora (inner lips) become a shade darker while the clitoral glans moves inward under the clitoral hood. In the throes of orgasm, the outer third of the vaginal canal constricts and the rest become dilated and lengthens and congested from engorged soft tissue. At about this time, the uterus, vagina, anus and pelvic muscles also experience rhythmic muscular contractions. As the orgasm subsides, the red flush likewise subsides too, the lengthening of the vaginal canal goes back to normal size and the clitoris reemerges from under the clitoral hood and goes back to normal size around, give or take, ten minutes.

All of these are controlled by the Autonomic Nervous System, which governs reflexes and involuntary actions of the tissues and organs of the body.

But there are multitudes of ways wherein a woman can reach sexual climax. Of course, there is sexual intercourse, manual or mechanical (sex toys or electrostimulation) masturbation, oral or anal sex or non-penetrative sex.

In layman’s terms, Orgasm is that exact time when you ‘lose yourself’ and it is the feeling that transcends time and space—the “oh-so-goooood” feeling that you cannot explain into the words the veracity of it; sometimes, it could only be boxed in a three-letter singular word : WOW . . .

G-SPOT DEFINITION:

The G-spot is a seemingly roughened bump-like within the anterior part of the vaginal canal just behind the pubic bone surrounding the urethra and could be classified as an erogenous zone, when stimulated, could bring the woman to heightened arousals and very powerful orgasms.

Sometimes, G-Spot orgasm could be equated with vaginal orgasm since the G-Spot is found from within the vagina. But the G-Spot evoke independent sensations that increase or heighten vaginal sensitivity as well.

The G-Spot (Gräfenberg Spot, named after its German Gynecologist discoverer Ernst Gräfenberg, who hypothesized its existence in 1944) could be felt by women and their partners by palpating the anterior vaginal wall during arousal; the best way is by inserting the middle finger into the vaginal canal about one-third deep and moving the finger into a ‘hither-to’ motion until the tip of the finger rests on the wall itself. A small rough bump-like area of the wall could be felt and direct stimulation of this bump creates sensations independent from the actual vaginal sensations felt during penetration. But in some researches, it is posited that some women have the G-Spot and some do not. It is nothing to be unhappy about because women could still have ‘earth-shaking’ orgasms through clitoral or vaginal orgasms or through other means.

Untangling Her Tingle: A Woman's Orgasmic Triad (Part II)
(Part I discussed definitions of the female orgasm and the G-Spot)

ACHIEVING ORGASMS: ANOTHER BOUT

It is a given fact that it takes longer for more women to “heat up.” Mishandling by the man in foreplay, stimulation, or even during intercourse, especially when the man has a “wham-bam-thank-you-ma’am” attitude in lovemaking definitely affects the capability of the woman to achieve orgasm. In these cases, the woman should aid herself in heightening sexual arousal and activity by subtly guiding the man how to pleasure her as she pleasures him. She could show by self-masturbation what makes her tick with soft purrings and encouragement of words that convey what she likes and doesn’t like. “A little bit here, honey” or “yes, sweetie, faster” wouldn’t hurt.

A woman could reach sexual climax through stimulating herself using her hands and other instruments that could increase libido. Sex toys like vibrators or dildos help a lot whenever the need for its utilization arises. Stimulation of the breasts and nipples and other erogenous zones could bring about orgasm as well. Careful stimulation of the sensitive nerve endings in the perineum [that soft part in between the vaginal opening and the anus in females and in between the scrotal sac and the anus in males] and around the anus could trigger orgasm.

Mental stimulation such as reading erotica or looking at highly erotic visuals could likewise bring about climax without physical stimulation. Non-sexual activities like wearing tight-fitting jeans, rhythmic vibrations of a car stuck in traffic or rubbing of the undergarments in activities that unintentionally invoke genital stimulation could bring about orgasm too and is known as Spontaneous Orgasms.

About 52 percent of women regularly fake orgasms because of the reason that they are not properly stimulated during intercourse, 17 percent have true orgasms and the rest claim to have problems, lack of interest or religious hang-ups as the culprits to not having orgasms.

An open line of communication between partners is still the standing recourse in having gratifying sexual complementariness.

CREATING REALITY FROM SEXUAL ENERGY:

And now, WE HAVE UNTANGLED THE TINGLE. Does it stop there?

No, definitely not.

The act of sex itself is a manifestation of our divine destiny and religion, sad to say, had continued on uneducating the people and misinforming the truth about this very powerful energy that could actually transform into reality from the proper channeling of it.

By the acceptance of this premise, we now know sex to be above than merely for procreation purposes or physical gratification. The energy brought about by the sexual act is creative energy and therefore must be translated into reality for it not to go to waste. This energy should expand the consciousness. The term “losing oneself” is actually a misnomer. One does not “lose oneself”during orgasm, although, shallowly, it may look like it. In truth, all the senses become acute at the onset of orgasm. All psychic powers are magnified during this moment.

Create a picture of the reality in your mind’s eye; lottery numbers, a grand finale to a much worked on project or simply your good health, your partner and your family. Breathe deeply to make you relaxed and see this reality, in the present tense, in full visual preconditioning, then say it, breathe into it and tuck in the recesses of your mind as you continue on the sexual exchange.

Women, in a more relaxed, less-aerobic lovemaking, gain so much energy from near-orgasm and orgasm itself against Men who have energy-drain due to ejaculation (ejecting semen out; expelling orgasmic energy through the pelvis) whereas the Woman does not. And so, men should practice control of ejaculation and create instead an INjaculation. A cycle of working up and holding back just to the point of release is actually what we can say as charging up the sexual battery.

Before the moment of release, recall the visions of the reality that you have carefully tucked in your mind. It is kind of hard at first but the more focused you are, the more effective it would be. At the moment of orgasm, channel this orgasmic energy and let it flow into the reality you want to create; keep breathing into it, focusing into it and mentally retain the visuals.

Repetition is reinforcement. In the advent of multiple orgasms, the same reality should be brought up, stored and orgasmic energy once again channeled.

Sex is not just the grinding and gyrating of the loins; it is as well as untangling a fused energy dance of the spirit, the psyche and the body.

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