33 Simple Sex Tips to Turn Her On


Most bedroom problems boil down to this: Men are microwaves and women are slow cookers.

With men, all you have to do is push a few buttons and we"re hotter than a habanero. But with women, it"s an all-day process. You have to buy the ingredients, mix them together, and then put everything in the pot and let it simmer . . . and simmer . . . and simmer.

That"s why we"re offering a microwave mentality for the Crock-Pot reality: quick, easy things you can do to make her heating speeds better match yours. Our suggestions take anywhere from a few seconds to a few minutes. The payoff? They"ll quickly adjust her thermostat to high heat.

Buy Her a Silk Thong

A gift of lingerie is cliched, right? So twist it. Give it to her when you (seemingly) don't expect sex right then and there. Pass it under the table at a restaurant and ask her to go to the ladies' room and change into it. "It's a little naughty, but she has a chance to play back," says Joy Davidson, Ph.D., a relationship therapist in Seattle. Not recommended for a first date.

Embrace Her Until She Ends It

Good kissing tops most women's lists of turn-ons, but don't underestimate the heating power of a great hug, especially when she initiates it. "Let her know how much you savor it," says Lou Paget, author of 365 Days of Sensational Sex. Make it clear you don't want the hug to end.

Wear Her Name

Women love to hear men use their names. The more unexpected the place—like in the middle of a sentence—the better. Better still, write her name on your shoulder, your hand, or anyplace she'll have a chance of spotting it. It's a tattoo without pain—one that gives only pleasure. "It will make her laugh and think you're so adorable," says Davidson. "It says, 'You matter.'

Whisper into Her Ear

In public, at a party, tell her what you want to do to her later: "Tonight, I'm going to make you have as many orgasms as possible." For women, anticipating it can be as exciting as the actual event.

Skip the Flowers

Blooms at the office are overdone. If you want to stand out, send a card instead. "It's really the thoughtful things you do at nonsexual times that make a woman want you," says Paul Joannides, author of Guide to Getting It On! Go with a thank-you. Write out a few things you've never thanked her for—making breakfast on Sunday, cleaning your stubble out of the sink. An appreciated woman during the day is an appreciative woman at night.

Plant a Picture

Stash a photo of her in your wallet. She'll deny it, but all women rummage at some point. You might as well turn it to your advantage.

Anyone can say, "I love you," so explain why. Maybe it's the way she nibbles at a KitKat, or how her nose scrunches when she drinks tequila. The more unique your reasons, the more special she'll feel.

Get Your Story Straight

For a happy ending (tonight and every night), remember the beginning: the details of your first meeting—where you were, what she was wearing, what you said, and how you felt. Recount them. Often.

Make Yourself Sick

Leave love notes around the house—in the fridge, on the bathroom mirror, under her pillow. That much sweetness might make you nauseous, but it'll make her feel like a lovesick teenager.

Apply Her Lipstick

"Grooming a woman is kind of a role reversal," says Linda De Villers, Ph.D., a California sex therapist and author of Love Skills: A Fun, Upbeat Guide to Sex-cessful Relationships. "She's being doted on and served, and it shows that you think a certain part of her body is attractive." Other ideas: Shave her legs, paint her toenails, or brush or wash her hair. According to a menshealth.com poll of 3,200 men, 76 percent said they have shampooed their woman's hair.

Kiss and Lick Her Hinges

You've got the obvious kiss spots covered. Now concentrate your efforts elsewhere—on her elbows, knees, shoulders, ankles, neck, and hip joints. "They're rarely attended to with long caresses," says Davidson. "It's a super sensation." See if you can make her come unhinged.

Bear Fruit

Chocolate syrup and whipped cream get all the kinky play in movies. Instead, turn her body into a juicer. "The best foods for sex are fruits that you can rub onto the body, such as soft mango or papaya," says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., Ed.D., a sex therapist in California and author of 12 Steps to Everlasting Love. "Then devour both her and the fruit." Get sticky, shower, repeat. If you're Mickey Rourke, skip the shower.

And Berries

Forget coffee and toast—bring hot chocolate (a sexual stimulant for her) and raspberries and strawberries to bed. The berries replenish the zinc you lose when you ejaculate—5 milligrams, or a third of your daily requirement.

Try the No-Move Move

When you start foreplay, tell her you're not going to move on to another action until she tells you what to do next. This works physically and mentally: It's a way to encourage her to open up and direct you to what she really wants. Now, your turn

Give Her a Massage

But make it interesting:

• In hot weather, roll a chilled can of soda along the backs of her thighs. 
• In cool weather, warm a towel in the microwave for 10 seconds and massage her with it. 
• Season her belly with a little salt, and then slowly lick it off. Add tequila to taste. 
• Turn winter gloves inside out, put them on, and massage her with the soft side.

Give Her Chills

"Cold is sensed by more nerve endings than mere touch can reach, so you're expanding her range of response," says Phillip Hodson, a British sex therapist. Do this: Chill a bunch of grapes for at least 20 minutes. Then trail a small sprig of them along her neck, nipples, and inner thighs. Nibble away. Now put a grape in your mouth and gently press it against her clitoris by holding it in your teeth or between your lips.

Give Her Chills

"Cold is sensed by more nerve endings than mere touch can reach, so you're expanding her range of response," says Phillip Hodson, a British sex therapist. Do this: Chill a bunch of grapes for at least 20 minutes. Then trail a small sprig of them along her neck, nipples, and inner thighs. Nibble away. Now put a grape in your mouth and gently press it against her clitoris by holding it in your teeth or between your lips.

Rub Her Down

For extra shower power, pour a couple of drops of shower gel into a spray bottle and mix it with water. Spray her, then rub. She'll feel three different types of stimulation—the steady pelting of the shower, the soft spray of the soapy gel, and the firm caresses of your hands. That's the kind of threesome that turns her on.

Make a Bedroom Burrito

Bondage is appealing for a good reason: It heightens the anticipation for the one who's receiving the pleasure. But anything with locks, Velcro, or ties can freak her out (us, too), so try this: While you're rolling around in bed, wrap her up in the sheet so she can't do anything with her arms (think burrito or straitjacket). Leave her head, shoulders, and lower legs uncovered. Now kiss every inch of exposed skin. It's simple, spontaneous, and soft-core.

Blindfold Yourself

Many women who are insecure about their bodies stick to the missionary position because you can't see their bodies that way. If you really can't see her because your eyes are covered, she'll do a lot more with you, to you, and for you.

Ask Permission

Before you enter her, ask if it's okay. "Some women find it incredibly endearing," says Barnaby Barratt, Ph.D., president of the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists. "It gives them a sense of respect. It gives them the security to become more sexually relaxed." And when you're first entering her, kiss her lips or caress her face. "Give her stimulation in addition to penetration," De Villers says.

Practice Reentry

After you first enter her, do it again—slowly. Repeat it over and over. "One of the huge turn-ons is anticipation," De Villers says. "Don't pull out all the way, but when you pull almost all the way out, she gets the anticipation of the stroke that comes back in."

Do It in Public

Or just pretend. Exhibitionism is a secret thrill for many women, but the threat of arrest deters them. So have sex standing up, with her near the bedroom window. It's easy to duck out of the way. If she's semiclothed, your neighbors will be none the wiser.

Blow Bubbles

Take a swig of champagne before going down, then use your tongue to swirl the bubbles around her clitoris. Nerve endings react to bubbles. In a very good way.

Use the Cottons Cycle

"The washing machine is the biggest vibrator in the house," says Hodson. Sit on it and have her sit on top of you—the vibrations carry through your penis. Cottons get the longest, fastest spin.

Go into the Closet

Novelty is an aphrodisiac. Any unusual setting, with strange sensations, smells, and muffled sounds, will make sex feel new. Confined spaces add urgency. "They're great for a quickie," says sex therapist Louanne Cole Weston. Watch that shoe tree!

Work the Angle

Liberator Shapes velvet cushions create an "orgasm-optimum" 26-degree pelvic tilt, which means maximum contact between your body and her clitoris, and minimum demands for foreplay. Feel free to adjust the angle slightly—there's evidence that 27 degrees works as well.

Or Call a Squeeze Play

With her facedown and you on top, have her cross her legs, and position yours outside of hers. Her vagina will feel tighter, and the added friction means more pleasure.

Get Bigger

When you're on top, place her legs over your shoulders. This shortens her vaginal canal, so your penis feels bigger inside her.

Stand by Your Woman

For better from-behind sex, have her kneel on the edge of the bed with her upper chest touching the mattress. This elongates the vaginal barrel, making it feel tighter. You get a fantastic view, and she'll enjoy the nipple stimulation from rubbing the mattress.

Make It Easy

For oral sex, stand while your partner kneels or sits on the bed. This angle lets her take more of you, gives her better control, and is less tiring.

Let Her Give You a Pearl Necklace

But not a real one. Lightly lubricate the pearls and your penis. Have your partner wrap the pearls around the shaft and slowly stroke up and down with a gentle rotation. The beads feel warm and smooth, creating a new level of sensatio

Direct a Fan at Her

Then pour peppermint schnapps into her belly button, dip your fingers and tongue, and trace her body.

Part time fling or long term lover?

It's the eternal question. He's cute, funny and your friends love him, but is that enough? How do you know he's ‘the one'? Here are 10 factors to consider and if you can meet at least nine of them then hold tight because he might just be the one you've been looking for...

He makes you laugh until you cry

A sense of the humour is one of the most appealing qualities in a man and sharing the same jokes will keep you close, whatever comes your way. It doesn't matter if no one else finds you funny, as long as you can make each other laugh out loud.

 You want the same things out of life

If you want to settle down and have a family and he wants to travel the world with no commitments then you are not on the same page. Although all couples have to make compromises you should essentially want the same things out of life and be able to work towards them together.

He likes you best with no make-up on

Yes, you may think he is lying but the chances are that he really does prefer you au natural. He loves you for you, not for the clothes you wear or the make up you doll yourself up in. If he tells you you're pretty when you are cuddled up in your pyjamas then chances are that he means it. 

You see his flaws but love him anyway

It is wrong to think that to be ‘the one' your man has to be perfect. Nobody is perfect. He is ‘the one' when you know him well enough to see all his flaws, accept them for part of who he is, and love him just as much anyway.

He supports you in everything you do

Whether you are going for a job promotion or planning a night out with your friends - he should be your biggest cheerleader. He may not agree 100% with all your decisions but he will never stop you doing anything, will be there to offer advice and pick you up when things go wrong. 

You trust him implicitly

If you have been hurt in the past it can be difficult to trust again, but it is an important part of any relationship. Your partner should earn your trust by proving that he always keeps his word and treats you with respect. No, you can never be 100% sure he won't stray but 99.5% will do. 

Even your dad/best friend/dog likes him

OK, it shouldn't matter what other people think of him, but it is still nice to know that they approve. Your dad and best friend are only looking out for your best interests and it is difficult to convince them that somebody is good enough for you. If your boyfriend manages to get them on his side then you are probably on to a winner.

You wake up and feel lucky each morning

As you roll over in the morning and see him lying next to you, you are struck with a great sense of contentment. Here, out of everywhere in the world, is where you most want to be. You feel lucky to have him in your life and can't imagine sharing it with anyone else.

You stop noticing the cute guy at the coffee shop

Of course you are still going to find other men attractive but it is amazing how much less you notice them when you have found ‘the one'. Think about it, have you met anyone recently who really got your juices flowing? No? Then chances are he's right in front of you.

You just know

Sometimes there is no defining factor or moment that confirms he is ‘the one' - you just know. When your life is brighter with him in it (even with his annoying habits and football obsession), when you feel happy each morning and can't imagine your life without him, when you smile thinking about him - you just know.

103 Inexpensive Ways To Say “i Love You”

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1. Write your lover an original, romantic poem (no matter how bad or sappy it is!)
2. Give your lover a romantic massage

3. Take an evening to learn all about your lover’s hobby or unique interest

4. Prepare a romantic meal for your lover (even if you’re a lousy cook)

5. Rent a romantic movie to watch with your lover (An Affair to Remember and Casablanca are great!)

6. Make a list for your lover of your ten favorite romantic memories of the time you’ve spent together

7. Tell your lover how much you enjoy waking up to them in the morning as soon as you wake up

8. Buy flowers for your lover’s mother to thank her for bringing such a special person into the world

9. Wash the dishes by hand with your lover, even if you have a dishwasher

10. Bring your lover romantic flowers at least once a week

11. Take your lover to a free museum or art exhibit

12. Make a romantic picture frame for your lover with your favorite photo of you together

13. Brag to your friends or family about how much you adore your lover

14. Make dinner for your lover’s family to get to know them better

15. Offer to give your lover a haircut (but only if you know what you’re doing!)

16. Buy the sappiest, cheapest greeting card you can find and add your own special romantic message

17. Make giving your lover a hug your first priority when you get home from work

18. Tell your lover that your relationship is your number one priority

19. Ask your lover to teach you how to make their favorite meal

20. Take your lover to a romantic park to push them on a swing

21. Save the ticket stubs from every date you go on with your lover

22. Take your lover on a romantic ferris wheel ride

23. Clean your lover’s car for them

24. Write your lover a “101 reasons why I love you” list

25. Kiss your lover on the cheek every day

26. Make a scrapbook full of pictures showing your lover as a kid growing up and give it to them as a present

27. Buy your lover an inexpensive box of candy to share together (not just for Valentine’s Day!)

28. Build a romantic sandcastle together with your lover at the beach

29. Take your lover back to the place where you went on your first date together

30. Give your lover a romantic thank-you note for all of the happiness they bring you

31. Learn how to sew and surprise your lover by fixing a ripped article of clothing for them

32. Email or scribble down a snippet from a romantic poem for your lover

33. Whisper secret romantic words in your lover’s ear, even when you are alone together

34. Put together a romantic photo album of pictures of you and your lover

35. Put a smiling picture of your lover on your car’s dashboard

36. Take your lover on a romantic afternoon hike or walk

37. Have flowers delivered to your lover at home or work

38. Read romantic love poems to your lover and laugh together at how sappy it is

39. Try to knit your lover a horrible, romantic winter hat, sweater or gloves

40. Mail your lover a card or letter expressing your love, even if you live together

41. Put a gentle arm around your lover’s shoulders when walking together

42. Make your lover a romantic calendar with a different picture of you together for each month

43. Watch a romantic movie together and make a bowl of popcorn for you to share

44. Take your lover on a romantic drive in a rich part of town to look at houses together

45. Buy an inexpensive bottle of wine for you and your lover to share

46. Say “I’m proud of you” to your lover

47. Paint a picture for your lover, no matter how awful your painting skills

48. Write a letter to the editor of your local paper thanking your lover for everything they do for you

49. Breath on your lover’s hands to warm them when it’s cold outside

50. Make your lover a romantic CD of songs that are special to you

51. Pack a special, romantic picnic for your lover

52. Take your lover out to try one of your favorite hobbies or sports–or try theirs!

53. Tell your lover how much your first kiss or date meant to you

54. Use romantic text messages to send your lover love letters on their cell phone

55. Start a romantic blog for your lover with pictures and posts about your relationship

56. Express your love on a mirror or window by writing with a bar of soap (don’t worry, it washes off!)

57. Romantically kiss each of your lover’s fingertips, one after another

58. Learn how to play a song for your lover on a musical instrument, then surprise them with a romantic impromptu performance

59. Surprise your lover with lunch at work

60. Surprise your lover with romantic rose petals on the pillows at bedtime

61. Cut out small hearts from construction paper and leave them in places where your lover will find them

62. Email your lover to let them know you are thinking of them during the day

63. Plant flowers in your lover’s yard or in a windowsill planter

64. Draw a romantic, funny cartoon for your lover expressing your love (the worse the drawing the better!)

65. Learn how to give your lover an amateur manicure

66. Sing a romantic karaoke song for your lover the next time you go to a bar together

67. Have a romantic dinner waiting for your lover after work

68. Light romantic candles for your lover at dinner, bedtime or when sitting around

69. Learn how say “I love you” in a different language to surprise your lover

70. Send a romantic e-card to your lover’s email inbox

71. Shovel the driveway for your lover after a snowstorm

72. Surprise your lover by changing the oil in their car or rotating their tires

73. Ask your lover’s family about any special ideas for making them happier

74. Offer to paint your lover’s nails (if a woman) or to help him shave (if a man)

75. Bake your lover a cake and write a special romantic message in frosting

76. Play romantic music while eating together or spending time together

77. Cook for your lover in a way you’ve never tried before, like grilling outside

78. Ask your lover to dance with you to a romantic song while your are alone together

79. Take your lover for a romantic bike ride

80. Use creative romantic words other than “I love you” to tell your lover how you feel

81. Rake the yard or mow the lawn for your lover

82. Instead of store-bought flowers, make a romantic bouquet of wildflowers for your lover

83. Make your lover homemade candy instead of buying

84. Take turns reading to each other from a favorite novel or book

85. Buy a book of romantic art and ask your lover to look at it with you

86. Make a scrapbook of all the romantic notes and cards you’ve received from your lover

87. Take your lover sledding on a snow day (it’s not just for kids!)

88. Make plans with your lover for exciting and fun weekend dates for the rest of the month

89. Try an exciting new recreational activity with your lover that neither of you have done before

90. Call in sick to work on your anniversary every year just to spend romantic time with your lover

91. Find out your lover’s favorite drink and become a master at making it

92. Make a list with your lover of all the wonderful things you have in common

93. Go to the fair with your lover and win them a stuffed animal (whether you’re a man or a woman!)

94. Call your lover during the work day to tell them you were thinking of them

95. Put time and thought into making homemade jewelry for your lover (but don’t forget to buy the real stuff occasionally!)

96. Ask your lover for a picture of them to carry in your wallet or purse

97. Try baking a romantic batch of cookies or cupcakes for you lover

98. Sneak out to get ice cream to share with your lover

99. Take your lover to garage sales or flea markets to shop together for things you both enjoy

100. Play a competitive game with your lover, whether physical or non-physical, and don’t be afraid to lose

101. Make your own list of 101 new ways to be romantic with your lover!
pensive Ways to Say “I Love You”

102. Buy her a Lexus

103. take her to the moon

~ 99 Ways To Love ~ 

These romantic tips will help you make days that you will remember. Scroll down to see the 99 ways to love your Mate.

1. Hug them.
2. Write a love note. 
3. Call them at work just to say “Hi.”
4. Give them a foot massage. 
5. Tell them a joke.
6. Caress them with slow gentle strokes. 
7. Go for a walk with them.
8. Send them a “happy gram.” 
9. Admit your mistakes.
10. Say: “I love you.” 
11. Indulge a whim. 
12. Listen to them talk about an interest of theirs.
13. Be trustworthy.
14. Instead of complaining, tell them what you would prefer. 
15. Look at them when you’re in a discussion.
16. Send flowers.
17. Compliment something they did. 
18. Offer to help. 
19. Ask them to show you how to do something.
20. Call when you are going to be late.. 
21. Take them out to dinner.
22. Write them a poem about how special they are. 
23. Cut out a cartoon they’ll enjoy. 
24. Ask them what they’d like sexually. 
25. Go shopping together.
26. Take an afternoon drive. 
27. Cuddle.
28. Put your arm around them in front of others.
29. Take them out on a surprise date.
30. Do something they want to do. 
31. Listen.
32. Plan a candle light dinner. 
33. Look at old photos together.
34. Serve them breakfast in bed. 
35. Hold hands.
36. Share sexual fantasies. 
37. Do a work project together.
38. Rub their back. 
39. Take a shower together.
40. Carry their photo in your wallet. 
41. Go away together for a weekend holiday. 
42. Kiss them.
43. Smile more when you look at them. 
44. Go for a bicycle ride together. 
45. Surprise them with “special” attire.
46. Plan a picnic lunch. 
47. Read something together about how to have a better relationship. 
48. Repeat what they say before answering. 
49. Say “Good morning” first. 
50. Ask if they have a few minutes first before interrupting. 
51. Send them a card. 
52. Surprise them with a gift when it’s a non-holiday.
53. Cook them a favorite meal. 
54. Try a new restaurant. 
55. Ask them how they feel. 
56. Let them know when you are proud of them.
57. Ask for their opinion.
58. Turn on some romantic music. 
59. Dedicate a song to them.
60. Send them a balloon bouquet. 
61. Watch a sunset together.
62. Play a game together. 
63. Have them teach you something they know.
64. Tell them they have the night off. 
65. Go to a movie they select. 
66. Ask them for a hug. 
67. Wear some new cologne. 
68. Discuss future plans with them.
69. Ask if you can help when they look sad. 
70. Ask them about their dreams.
71. Meet them for lunch.. 
72. Enlarge a scenic photo of a place you’ve shared.. 
73. Give them a gift certificate for their favorite store. 
74. Tell them what you like about them. 
75. Buy them a new perfume.
76. Take them to a scenic spot. 
77. Send them a gourmet gift basket. 
78. Send them a joke card. 
79. Let them know when you’ve thought of them during the day.
80. Buy them a toy. 
81. Compliment them to their friends.
82. Bring them a thirst quenching drink. 
83. Tell them when they look attractive.
84. Send them a post card. 
85. Invite them to a secret rendezvous.
86. Give them a massage.
87. Take a lesson with them. 
88. Look at photos together of when you met. 
89. Plan a vacation with them.
90. Listen openly to their opposing opinion. 
91. Buy them a new piece of jewelry. 
92. Watch a TV show they like with them 
93. Write them a letter. 
94. Listen to music with them, such as an old favorite. 
95. Whisper sweet nothings in their ear.
96. Tell them what you like that they do.
97. Give a head massage. 
98. Invite them to a concert. 
99. Let them know you care.