Quickie sex tips

With our busy lives, it's easy for sex to fall to the bottom of the 'to-do' list, but quickie sex can really boost your relationship and lift your mood. Think you don't have time for sex? Whether you've got five, 10 or 15 minutes to spare, we've got some fun quickie sex ideas for you.

Five minutes

Having an orgasm in five minutes or less is pretty ambitious, as it will take the majority of women much longer to come. But if you're short on time a bit of planning first can help.

Think about sex
Set the scene a couple of hours beforehand with a saucy text message telling him what you want to do to him or what you want him to do to you.

What turns you on?
Don't expect full-on penetrative sex, think about what else turns you on - it could be the way he holds you, kisses your neck or even looks at you.

Get in the mood
Spend some time thinking about a sexy scenario - perhaps a really hot session that you've had previously - or read something sexy.

Don't undress
Keep your clothes on and guide his hands to stimulate you through your underwear

Try some toys
A vibrator can be a great way to get things going for a five minute quickie, and you don't need to just use it on your clitoris or vagina - breasts, nipples and his penis are also sensitive to the vibrations.

10 minutes

Use a lubricant

Most men can get turned on in seconds, but for women it's trickier. Try using a lubricant like KY or Durex from your local chemist, or if you're too embarrassed, buy online from sites like LoveHoney. 'Adding lubricant speeds up the female arousal process by instantly providing what takes the body a little while to provide naturally,' says Tracey Cox in her book Quickies.

Try other types of sex
Don't just think about penetrative sex. Remember how exciting other types of touching can be? This all counts as a steamy sex session, too! Use only hands
and fingers, have fun with your vibrator
or try oral sex.

Don't stress
Don't worry if you're having a fat day (see our sex positions for fat days) or if the bedroom is a mess. Quick sex is all about seizing the moment and pure lust. If you wait for the exact moment where you both are in the mood, looking your best, in nice pants/lingerie you might be waiting a long time!

Don't only think of orgasms
Yes, orgasms are important, but it's not realistic to expect one every time you have sex - especially if it's just for 10 minutes. Just enjoy the ride and remember that this quickie sex session will keep you simmering until the next time you have sex - and then you'll be ready to boil over! 

Sex when you've only got 15 minutes

Set the tone

Increase the excitement by altering your surroundings, perhaps with the lights off, in a different room of the house or with your favourite sexy music on.

Be in charge

According to Tracey Cox's book Quickies, our testosterone levels (women have them, too) are at their highest when we first wake up. Try getting up five or 10 minutes earlier than him and stimulate yourself first. When you're feeling ready, wake him up with oral sex or some foreplay, then you can get on top and please yourself. And you don't have to be totally alert, sleepy sex can be sexy, too!

Know what position is best

If you only have 15 minutes, make sure you try a position that you know works for you. For most women, the traditional woman-on-top works best. For others, from behind works as it stimulates your G-spot. We also think that half off the bed and the squeeze-him-tight (try it in the kitchen) are good for quickie sex, but you can find more ideas with our sex positions finder.

Get wet

Jump in the shower - you don't even need to take all your clothes off! Wet clothes can add extra sex appeal, no matter what your shape and size - although for safety make sure your feet are bare otherwise you may slip.