How to have the perfect orgasm

In our recent poll we asked you what was stopping you orgasm. Twenty three percent of you said the main reason you aren't having orgasms is that sex is over too quickly! This was closely followed by 22% of you saying there's not enough foreplay. So to help you get the orgasm you deserve we've put together a few tips...

Why you aren't having orgasms

For many of us in long-term relationships, sex can take a bit of a back seat as the hustle and bustle of everyday life seems to allow very little time for a bit of much needed hanky-panky! Perhaps we prioritise other things before our sex life, or maybe when it comes down to it - we're just too used to our partners to complain!

We wanted to find out just what it is that gets in the way of you and the big 'o', so we asked you to tell us.

Fortunately for your fella, only 8% of you said you were bored of sex with your man, while the majority of you were divided between sex being over too quickly and not enough foreplay, interestingly, 15% of you said he doesn't know how to make you orgasm.

Have more orgasms - How to make sex last longer

While a quickie may seem tempting for him, it's obvious that you're not happy with this! Embarrassing as it might be, you need to address the issue - tell him you want to spend more time in bed with him. No doubt if you're not orgasming during sex he'll have noticed (unless you're a very good actress - in which case you should read our orgasm fake feature) and most likely wants to do something about it.

Make time for foreplay!

It's a bit of a no-brainer - the more time you put in - the more you get out! More foreplay means higher likelihood of you having an orgasm - especially if you're more of a clitoral orgasmer rather than a G-spotter. And don't worry, there's nothing wrong with you having a pre-sex orgasm. In fact, if you find it hard to orgasm through actual sex itself it's a great way of making sure you both get plenty of satisfaction out of the whole bedroom experience.

And we've got 10 hot foreplay tips just waiting for you to try. We've also got these seduction tips which can be combined with foreplay.

Practice makes perfect

Encourage him to practice holding his erection for longer! You can turn this into a game. Tease him and indulge in foreplay until he's just about ready to burst - then withdraw the teasing and encourage him to try to stop the flood of sensations. Wait a little while, then start to tease him again until he's ready and let him climax. If you try this a few times it'll get him well trained in lasting that little bit longer and make more time for you to catch up.

Try a different sex position

Certain sex positions are much better for lasting longer. While they might not be the most exciting of all the positions, the good ol' missionary position and spooning sex are great for staying power. If he's starting to get close, encourage him to tease you by pulling out and having a breather. He can still do other things to you and then when he's ready, get back on again!

Experiment with our selection of fun sex positions and if you're really feeling adventurous have a go at some Tantric sex!