Orgasms - Everything you ever wanted to know
How do we have orgasms?
For many women an orgasm is something they can only dream of, while for others it's something that rarely happens when they're with their partner.If you fall into either of these categories, then don't worry, you're not alone. Research has shown that
- 1 in 10 women never orgasm at all
- 4 out of 10 women reach their first orgasm through masturbation.
- Climaxing with a partner during penetrative sex is actually more difficult than TV, films and many books would have you believe and it requires techniques that often need to be learned.
But never fear, goodtoknow is here to help. Read on for expert advice and tips on how to put the 'ooooh' into your orgasm...
Psst! Just a quick warning that some of the following content might be a little rude for your kids, so be careful!
The orgasm is split up into four phases that both men and women experience.
What happens when we orgasm?
Basically, you will feel the results of two changes in your body during an orgasm - your muscles will tighten up and blood will flow to your breasts and genital area.The Excitement Phase
As you become aroused, your vagina begins to lubricate and lengthen, and your cervix (the neck of the womb) begins to move up. Your heart rate and blood pressure increase and a reddish rash often referred to as a 'sex flush' may start to appear across your chest and other parts of your body. Your muscles will also start to tense up.The Plateau Phase
Your heart rate and blood pressure are starting to increase rapidly. Your clitoris and labia will fill with blood and grow darker in colour and become firmer, as the breasts swell and the nipples harden. The womb now rises further in the pelvis and the far end of the vagina 'tents' to form a hollow space.The Orgasmic Phase
As you reach the high point of the orgasm, your entire genital area is filled with blood and your orgasm begins. Your body basically 'lets go' and allows all this blood to return to the rest of your body and releases all the tension in your muscles.Your vaginal walls contract at approximately 0.8-second intervals and then peter out as the climax subsides. Your orgasm will typically last much longer than his and multiple orgasms are not uncommon.
The Resolution Phase
Your body will return to normal as blood flows away from your genital area. Your clitoris will feel extremely sensitive, because it has gone from one extreme to another. Unlike men, women are able to experience another orgasm immediately.Women describe orgasm in a variety of ways, depending on how they interpret the sensation, how sensitive they are and what sort of stimulation they're using.
What do orgasms feel like?
One woman admitted that, after losing her virginity, her climaxes felt like little panic attacks. Then later she grew to enjoy the feeling as she become more comfortable with sex and less guilty about whether it was something she, 'as a nice girl', should be doing.Other women may, at times, feel their orgasm all over the body, reverberating through their skin, while some may feel a more contained pulsing sensation between their labia.
Battery- or mains-powered vibrations tend to give a more immediate orgasm with stronger contractions, but that doesn't mean a woman will prefer the sensation to a slower build-up and a milder orgasm with her man
Although many women can easily climax during intercourse, the easiest way of having an orgasm is the DIY method using a vibrator.
Other orgasm techniques!
A famous sex educator called Betty Dodson earned herself the nickname of 'The Grandmother of Masturbation' in the 20th century, as she worked her way around America helping women to become orgasmic.Plug it in
Hundreds of women attended Betty's masturbation workshops and had their first orgasms at the hands of this amazing woman. She used something called the Hitachi Magic Wand, a mains-charged massager and probably the most powerful vibrator you will ever feel between your legs.It's so powerful that you might want to place a folded towel over yourself before applying it. Once you're accustomed to the vibes, roll the head of the massager up and down over your clitoris, labia and vaginal opening, breathing deeply and focusing on enjoying the sensations.
Rampant rabbit
Alternatively, any basic Rabbit-style vibrator used with lube will provide milder, yet still substantial vibrations, as well as a feeling of fullness - something many women say aids their orgasm.The shafts of these toys also contain rotating balls designed to massage the G-spot, which is an internal erogenous zone, embedded two inches up inside the front vaginal wall and is said to make your orgasm stronger and deeper.
With a Rabbit-style vibrator, the 'ears' attached to the base are designed to stimulate the clitoris, although you can turn the toy around so the fronds buzz against your perineum (the erogenous zone between your anus and vaginal opening). For the woman who's never had an orgasm, experimenting on other parts of the body is a great way to discover hidden orgasm triggers.
Water fun
Powerful water streams from either a Jacuzzi jet or a showerhead are also known to have been responsible for an orgasm or two. Water cascading over the clitoris can feel a lot like oral sex, and being immersed in a tub provides a relaxing environment in which to fantasise.Try to image the jets of water are actually the tip of Brad Pitt's tongue working away on you and you'll transport yourself into the headspace necessary for orgasm.
No matter how many versions of the Kama Sutra are printed, there are only really three types of sex position.
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