10 Fun foreplay tips

 Has he got a higher sex drive than you? Need help getting turned on? As we all know, great sex isn't all about the actual act. The build-up and foreplay is just as important and if it's really good it will drive you and your fella wild.

10 hot foreplay tips

To prove that there's more to sex than just the act itself, we've come up with 10 hot tips for you and your fella to try to get you in the mood for things to come!

Try just one or all of them and you won't be disappointed...

Kissing tips

1. Flirting with foreplay!

Remember what it was like to kiss someone when you were younger? Okay it may have been a bit sloppy at first, but the passion and thrills you felt were just amazing! So why should this stop just because we're a bit older and wiser?

We say, bring back some good old-fashioned pashing with your man! And to give you a nudge in the right direction, here are some hot kissing tips...

• Start by gently holding his face in your hands and kissing him lightly on the lips.
• Now softly kiss him all round his lips and the bottom half of his face, keeping your lips closed.
• Move down to his neck and caress it with your lips. Most men love to have their necks kissed and it's one of the most sensitive areas!
• Now go back to his mouth for a proper french kiss - but be careful not to ram your tongue in and out.
• Don't be shy to make a little noise: Men love hearing your pleasure and their hearing is another sense that's being stimulated.

Your kiss should last as long as you want it to. Don't be in a hurry to get to the good stuff, take your time over things and savour each thrilling moment! It may take a bit of practice to get him back in habit of kissing but it really be worth it!

Foreplay tips

2. Sexy dancing

Dancing together can be one of the most erotic and sensual activities you do - outside of sex itself.

We've all watched Strictly Come Dancing and seen how amazing the Latin dances can be. And the same applies to any kind of dance you and your partner do together - the closer you get the more intense the sensation will be.

So put on some sexy music that hopefully won't get you in fits of laughter as soon as you both start dancing.

Then, and here's the important part, you need to touch each other. Put your arms around each other and sway gently.

Move your groin towards his and you should get a pretty instant reaction. In fact, just move and get close. The very act of rubbing against each other, even if you are wearing clothes should be enough to get him and you very aroused.

To take it even further, start to take off items of clothing while you're dancing - assuming you're somewhere you can do this!

Foreplay tips

3. Give him his own private dance

Stripping for fun for your fella is a surefire way to get him going and it'll make you feel really sexy too!

The main thing to remember is to relax and enjoy it. If you're tense and nervous it'll show. It might take a few times but once you get it right you'll love it!

The second thing you might want to do is practise a couple of times. You don't need to choreograph a routine, but getting used to doing the strip and taking your clothes off in a certain way might take a few gos.

Pick clothes that are easy to remove or have sexy details such as knickers which tie up at the side, or shirts you can slowly unbutton.

Choose music that you can easily imagine yourself dancing around to and then just go for it when he's not expecting it.

And remember girls, the golden rules of doing a striptease are:

• He can't touch you! You can touch him, but his hands must stay put
• Keep your eyes on him at all times
• Leave the clothes where they land - you'll break the spell if you keep tidying up
• Think about your outfit. You may even like to combine this with a bit of role play!

Foreplay tips

4. Read him a naughty tale

Men may be turned on more by images than words, but getting him to make up his own images in his head can be even more powerful.

The idea of this trick is to tell your man the most erotic, sexy story you can think of and let his own brain - and hands - do the work.

1. Either make up your own story and let your own imagination run wild
2. If your creativity isn't up to it, get a girlie mag and read him one of the stories from the back.

As with the striptease routine, while you're reading out loud, he's not allowed to touch you at all, but he can touch himself as much as he wants.

Watch him get totally turned on - and either stop when you don't think he can cope any more, or let him do all the work himself. Have fun!

Foreplay tips

Sex fantasies

Tapping into his fantasies is always a good way of getting him into the mood - and this one is about sex with a stranger.

Blindfold him and lead him into a dark room, telling him to wait there. You might want to tie up his hands, although that's not completely necessary as long as he obeys you.

You then tell him to wait for someone else to come in. Leave him for a few minutes and then come back in quietly and pretend to be a stranger.

Now you can do whatever you want to him, but the important word here is slowly. The longer you take turning him on, the more he'll want you.

And remember, by stopping him seeing he has to rely on his other senses more, so talk to him in whispers and make as many sexy noises as you can when you start to touch him.

Foreplay tips

6. Have a sexy picnic

We all know about aphrodisiacs and their powers to get both men and women going, so start by getting hold of some of the ones you and your guy like the best.

Get rid of all distractions, turn on some music and relax together with your food.

Start by feeding each other things like strawberries, asparagus or chocolate, depending on your preference.

Then move onto placing items of food on him or you and take turns to eat it off each other. Try using chilled champagne, cava or even ice cream to vary the temperature. This can be a real turn on!

And to make sure it's not all about the food, why not buy a sexy book or naughty video - just in case you need any more distractions and ideas!
Try these romantic recipes

Foreplay tips

7. Erotic massages

Massage shouldn't just be for when you have strained or pulled muscles - it's one of the most erotic things you can do to each other without actually having sex.

Get some soothing music, candles and scented oils and then get down to it.

Get your man to lie face down on the bed with a towel to rest on and then set to work rubbing and kneading his body. Start with the neck and shoulders and slowly work down.

You can use all parts of your hands, including knuckles and wrists to vary the pressure.

Wait until you feel your man really relax before you start to move towards the real erogenous zones. Massage your way around his body until he starts to get turned on. Pay special attention to areas he enjoys being touched on.

Make sure you stop before he gets too aroused - you want him to return the favour, don't you?!

Foreplay tips

8. Get energetic in the bedroom!

Exercise really gets the blood pumping and the feelgood endorphins that are released are similar to how you feel when you get aroused.

We're not suggesting you go for a run or spend an hour at the gym to get each other in the mood, but there's nothing wrong with getting more energetic in the bedroom!

Try starting with a pillow fight! Don't hit too hard, but do it enough to get out of breath and flirt with competitiveness! By the time you collapse into a heap on the duvet, you won't be able to keep your hands off each other.

If pillow fighting isn't for you, you could always try a little gentle play -fighting - arm wrestling, wrestling, or just a bit of playful rolling around on the bed! Just make sure you don't get too rough or do anything the other person feels uncomfortable with. A bit of sexy play-fighting foreplay can lead to extra passion in bed!

Foreplay tips

9. Try virtual sex

You don't have to be in the same room as your man to get him going. Why not send him messages while he's at work or out of the house to put him in the mood?

You can either text him and ask him questions that will start to get his mind racing, like: 'Guess what I'm wearing today?' or 'Where do you think my hand is now?'

Or try sending him pictures of you doing naughty things, if your phone allows you to - and remember if he can't see the whole picture, then it'll really tease him and make him what you're up to.

If he uses a computer at work, then you could send him naughty, flirty emails telling him what you want to do tonight - the hotter the better.

He won't be able to resist thinking about you and the fact that he's getting them at work will make him really aroused. That'll take his mind off those boring spreadsheets!

Masturbation tips

10. Pleasure yourself!

Have you ever watched your man pleasure himself? Has he ever seen you masturbate? Well, why not try both doing it at the same time?

Start by both getting comfortable - lie next to each other on the bed, or perhaps have one of you on the bed and the other sitting in a chair opposite - whatever works for you

Then both start touching yourself gently, as you would if you were alone. At first this might seem a little weird, because it's not something you usually do in front of someone else, but as soon as you see each other start to get turned on, you're inhibitions will soon disappear!

If you want to use a vibrator, then feel free - that's likely to send him through the roof, if he's never seen it before.

Using sex toys for foreplay is also great because it'll help you see what really turns him on, so next time you can turn up the heat even more!

Try having a competition to see who can orgasm first, or even who can last the longest - not easy when you're watching each other